A homeworker’s SOS

I haven’t been out for a few days. 

As I walked out this morning with slightly bleary eyes.  I wasn’t even sure what temperature it was outside.

Let alone whether I would be able to speak coherently.

Ordinarily, I’m what you might call a gregarious type.  I love the company of other people.  And it’s not because I’m short of places to go, but I wanted to get my head down and do some proper work.  (As opposed to having coffee with friends, potential clients and partners of course!).

Wrong.  What actually happened was that I stared at the PC for a long while.  I checked repeatedly into personal and professional social networks and kept the Olympics on in the background.  The perfect excuse to stop and make a celebratory cup of tea.  In short, I have procrastinated for several days and I have got very little done at all.

Why is it that I can now sit in a coffee shop in Soho, with all London’s noise around me, and get more done in one hour than I have in two days?

Thinking about it, and if I’m honest, these are some of the reasons that you and I will sometimes feel blocked.

1.  Feeling under par

Not necessarily a specific illness, but a general malaise.  In the past, it would have been called feeling liverish.  Whatever you call it, feeling under par just saps your energy just when you most need it.

Lack of sleep is particularly bad for your creativity.

2.  Fear of rejection

This is a big one to admit.  I’ve got all the tools that I should need to make my dream a reality, but I’m scared of putting it out there.  It doesn’t make any sense, I know, but I can spend hours thinking how some people might not like the idea.  Making it a reality means that I’d have to deal with that.  Much easier to faff around for a few more days.

3.  Deadlines

The more I don’t get on with it, the closer the deadlines get.  The closer the deadlines get, the more stressed I feel.  Sound familiar?  It’s like being on a merry-go-round that I can’t get off.

4.  Money

There is no doubt that the lack of a constant income adds to the washing machine full of thoughts that are going around in my head.  I have a wonderful supportive family, and I’m unlikely to go broke just yet, but I hate the lack of control that it creates.  Worrying about money gets in the way of thinking about how to make money out of your idea.

Recognising that these are the causes is half the battle and although I know what works for me, you will have your own ways of dealing with the hamster wheel of dejection.  Here’s some ideas.

Putting yourself into a busy environment and feeling the vibrancy of the world around you is one way of helping get your creativity and confidence back.  You re-connect with the rest of the world.  That’s what happened when I settled in at that café in Soho.  Feeling part of the universe as it keeps going around.

If you live miles from anywhere, that might be difficult.  Why not start your own get together in your village or town?  We’d be happy to work with you on that if you want help.  You can always meet virtually here at KindredHQ. Eventbrite and Meetup are excellent, and have local events that will bring you together with other like-minded people.  Join a co-working club – there are thousands popping up all over the world.  Just do a google search for one in your area.

We’re thinking about that and there’ll be more from us over the coming weeks as we find new ways to bring you together.



Who is Alex Butler

Hello, I'm Alex Butler and I founded the KindredHQ community and blog back in 2011 after I re-started a freelance career. I LOVE freelancing and I wouldn't swop the freedom, control and joy of working for myself for anything. But I realised how much I missed the company and energy of other people - of having a team around me. So, I got a few people together one day with our laptops, a jar of coffee and some jelly babies and we sat and worked together one afternoon. We've been doing that every week in London, UK since then! I am still 100% freelance and I like to share the everyday highs and lows of being a freelancer here on the blog.